Monday, March 10, 2014

On relationships: that thing

One of my favorite movies of 2012 is the Noah Baumbach/Greta Gerwig-written Frances Ha. Shot stylishly in black-and-white and reminding me a lot of Woody Allen's Manhattan, I loved this film for Gerwig's endearing portrayal of Frances, perfectly summed up by a review from the Village Voice:

"Frances is a little dizzy and frequently maddening, but Gerwig is precise in delineating the character's loopiness: her lines always hit just behind the beat, like a jazz drummer who pretends to flub yet knows exactly what's up."    

My favorite scene is when Frances, who is at the most awkward dinner party ever, talks about what she wants in a relationship.

        "That thing when you're with someone and you 
        love them and they know it and they love you 
        and you know it. But it's a party, and you're 
        both talking to other people and you're laughing 
        and shining, and you look across the room and 
        catch each other's eyes, but not because you're    
        possessive or it's precisely sexual but because 
        that is your person in this life...And it's this 
        secret world that exists right there, in public,       
        unnoticed, that no one else knows about."        

Have you ever experienced "that thing" in a relationship? Do you remember that moment when you knew that was "your person?"

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